A transit is simply where the planets are right now, compared with where they were when you were born. Today’s sky is the same for everyone; a transit is what happens when that shared sky makes contact with your particular chart.
Weather, not fate
Treat transits like weather. A hard transit is not a punishment and an easy one is not a reward — they are conditions. You still choose what to wear, whether to go outside, and how to spend the day underneath them.
The sky sets the weather. You still pick the day’s plan.
A simple daily habit
Each morning, read the one or two biggest transits and ask one question: where in my life is this likely to show up? Then watch. After a few weeks you will start to feel the difference between a Mercury day and a Mars day without needing to check.